If your teen is in immediate danger, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or call 911.
Why teens self-harm
Most teens who self-harm aren't trying to get attention, and most aren't trying to die. Self-harm is usually a way to cope with emotions that feel too big: overwhelm, numbness, anger, shame or loneliness. It brings brief relief, which is why it can become a pattern.
That doesn't make it less serious. Self-harm is a sign of real pain, and it always deserves careful attention.
What to do first
- Stay as calm as you can. Your steadiness tells your teen it's safe to keep talking.
- Thank them for telling you or for being honest, even if you found out another way.
- Don't punish. Consequences usually push self-harm into hiding.
- Get medical care for any wound that needs it.
- Reach out to a professional this week.
If your teen talks about wanting to die or you believe they are in danger, call or text 988 or call 911 right away.
How Joe helps
Joe starts with safety. Together with your teen, and with you, he builds a clear safety plan. Then the work moves to what's underneath: learning what triggers the urge, building healthier ways to handle intense emotion, and loosening the grip of shame.
Parents aren't left in the dark. Joe checks in when it's needed and explains what to watch for and how to respond at home.
Is virtual counseling enough?
For many teens, yes. Joe will assess carefully at the start. If your teen needs a higher level of care, such as an intensive outpatient program, he will tell you plainly and help you find the right next step.
Frequently asked questions
Is self-harm a suicide attempt?
Usually it isn't. But self-harm is a risk factor for suicide, so Joe always asks about suicidal thoughts and takes it seriously.
Will you tell me if my teen is still hurting themselves?
Parents of minors are informed about safety concerns. Joe explains exactly how this works to both you and your teen in the first session, so trust stays intact.
Is this faith-based?
If your family wants it, yes. Many Christian teens carry extra shame about self-harm. Joe helps them experience grace instead of condemnation.